Supporting Mothers – you are not alone!

1800MUMMYS understands the demands placed on mothers today. The expectation society places on us and especially the expectation we place on ourselves. The mothers involved in this website have years of experience and some great survivial skills to share with you. Please be assured you are not alone. We are here to help! We had the pleasure of meeting with Tabitha Claire & Zoe at the 1800MUMMYS launch on Saturday 19th January 2013.  Tabitha had concerns regarding her daughters first year at school and was very grateful of the “Back to School Preparation for Parents” day 1800MUMMYS hosted at Brennan Park on Bribie Island.  You can find more details regarding this day and topics discussed in our ARTICLES & INFO section....

PARENTAL STRESS

Being a parent brings out a range of powerful emotions from exhilaration to despair. Your feelings of love, happiness and pride may quickly turn to anger, hate or guilt, depending on the situation and the degree of support available to you. These feelings are completely normal. Most parents experience negative emotions from time to time. It is important to manage feelings like anger and frustration so that you can enjoy parenting and maintain a safe, happy home for your child. It may be helpful to talk to other parents – you’ll soon discover that everyone is experiencing the same rollercoaster of feelings and experiences. Build a trusting, loving and respectful relationship The type of relationship you build with your child is what guides them throughout their life. Children learn by following the examples set by adults around them and from their experience of their own relationship with their parents. To become a person who is able to control themselves, manage their negative feelings in a peaceful way, trust and respect others, and behave with care and compassion, your child will have to experience and see these behaviours. Physical discipline can injure your child. Some parents believe that physical discipline, such as smacking, is for the child’s own good. Children are dependent on their parents for love and care – they never deserve to be punished by physical discipline. Young children, such as those less than 12 months of age, don’t have the intellectual maturity to understand discipline of any kind. Hitting or smacking will only frighten a young child or cause serious and permanent injuries. By using physical discipline with your...

EXPERIENCING NEGATIVE FEELINGS AS A PARENT

Parents can feel tired, ill, stressed and angry and so can children. Children often cannot tell us how they are feeling but instead ‘act out’ their feelings through their behaviours. When parents are under pressure themselves, it is more difficult to take the time to work out what your child is trying to tell you. Parents may often just react to the behaviour. Most children experience difficult times. Try to remember that these times can be normal phases of growing up and will probably pass. Suggestions on dealing with your child’s unhappy behaviour include: Ask for support. Remember that ‘it takes a village to bring up a child’, so don’t try to parent on your own. Take time out from the care of your child. Leave your child with a responsible adult and have a break to catch up on some sleep, go to the hairdresser or talk to a friend. Seek out like-minded people who will encourage you in your parenting and build your confidence as a person and parent. Attend a parent group that has the same philosophy and values as you have. Dealing with frustration and anger If you feel frustrated and angry to the point where you feel you might lose control, you need to take time out to deal with these feelings. Some short-term suggestions include: Put your child in a safe place and leave the room. Walk around the house or go outside. Inhale deeply and exhale slowly and steadily. Count your breaths to focus your concentration. Be aware of your body language and try to change it so that you are more...

BID TO HELP DISADVANTAGED AND ABUSED

A BLI Bli woman is making a frantic last-minute bid to raise $309,000 to buy a home for the Coast’s disadvantaged and young people. Valerie Carter is trying to secure enough pledges from Sunshine Coast businesses by tomorrow for a house she believes has great potential for the Houses of Healing Legacy foundation she is setting up. The mother of three and grandmother of three – who has undertaken charity work for 35 years – has a contract to purchase the property as an investment but she said the bank had other ideas and she had realised she needed the community backing to get this project off the ground. “It’s been something I’ve wanted to do for a very long time,” she said. “I had a near-death experience recently and I realised I was running out of time so I want to get this project moving really quickly. “Our family has tried desperately to do it alone but the bank which holds personal accounts for our whole family, accounts for two family businesses and retains a large amount of equity on our existing property is saying it is unable to approve the loan under its new banking guidelines.” Mrs Carter, one of 12 siblings, is known on the Coast as the co-ordinator of Sunshine Coast Showgirl, as Nambour RSL functions co-ordinator for 20 years and most recently as a teacher aide at Nambour High School for the past five years. She said she stumbled upon a home in Carter Street in Nambour in the community housing zone which meant she might be able to build other units at the back to cater for more homeless people. “I...